September 01st 2012

Dear Helpline,

I’m in love with my ex’s brother. We have dated before and my ex doesn't care that we were together because he says he hates me and his brother has a girlfriend but he told me about a month ago, that he fell for me a long time ago. I can’t stop thinking about my exs brother and can’t stop talking to him. Both of our parents don’t care. Should I tell him? What should I do?

Anonymous

Dear Anonymous,

I wouldn’t advise you to get in a relationship with this guy. My main reason for saying this is because this relationship might bring about a lot of hate and unwanted drama. Think about it, he’s your ex’s brother. And that’s just one thing that’s really advised you don’t do; date your ex’s friends or family members. Just think about your ex’s perception of you. It’s true you might say you don’t really care about his opinion about you, but some of the choices one makes, can really affect them later on. Put all your feelings for this guy aside for a while. Now think of the many disadvantages you may experience whilst you’re in a relationship with this guy. Do you really want to do this? And really, where is his loyalty to his brother? I advise that you think long term. And besides, you stated he has a girlfriend. But are you even sure he will leave this girl for you? And even if he would, hun, I just don’t think you should get involved in this relationship. It may hurt for a while, but eventually you’ll get over it.

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