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March
12th 2011
Dear
Helpline
I’m
a 19 year old female graduate from S.A.L.C.C.
I am employed and I have a boyfriend. You
can say that I’m partially independent
yet still my parents wont t let me go anywhere
or do anything. They don't even improve of
me having a boyfriend. What can I do? Please
help!
Short
and Discouraged
Dear
Short and Discouraged
Love happens
when two people set eyes on each other by
fate and develop a bond that cannot be broken
by anyone or anything, till death do them
part. But one would question sometimes whether
or not you are fated to be with someone when
your relationship is very much disapproved
by others, particularly their parents. Here
are a few steps you can follow to help with
your situation.
Steps in Gaining Parental Approval of Your
Relationship
1. Be truthful about your involvement with
your partner and why you feel he is the right
one for you.
2. When parents disapprove of their child's
involvement with someone, they would have
a stack of things to say about him. Still,
do not walk away from them. Open your ears
to what they have got to say about your partner.
After all, you need not necessarily agree
to their opinions.
3. Refrain from using provocations or threats
against your parents. Sometimes you just need
to understand that they have got nothing but
love for you, and want nothing but the best
for you. Try to be gentler in the way you
convince them, and do it at your own pace.
If your partner really loves you, he or she
would not mind waiting.
4. If the disapproval from your parents is
causing you to think twice about your decision
to be with your boyfriend, then maybe you
shouldn’t rush into things and keep
your options open. Disapproval from your parents
can lead to lack of trust and major contradictions
between you and your partner.
5. You need not pressurize your partner to
be present for your family outings or get-together
sessions, but you should also ensure that
your partner does not restrict you from being
with your family. Your relationship with your
family should never be broken no matter what.
Discuss Story
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