November 12th 2011

Dear Helpline,

There’s this guy I really like, but he just does not like me. I try so hard so that he will see how much I like him but he just ignores me. He acts like he doesn’t care about the way I feel. He knows how I feel, but it doesn’t seem like he’s really interested. Can you give me some advice as to how I can get this guy to like me? Pleassssseee, I’m begging. I really like him and want him to like me too.

Sidora

Dear Sidora,

IFirst of all, how old are you? If you’re going to school then guys should not be a priority right now. It tends to affect an individual and their performance level. Even if you’re of the dating age, you need to take your time and not rush into things as you have your whole life ahead of you.

Secondly, it is quite obvious that this guy is not into you. It may sound harsh, but for your own good, you need to hear the truth. Why would you want to be with someone who does not care about the way you feel? Put physical appearance aside for a minute and ask yourself, what other qualities he has to make him “the one.” Remember, if you’re going to be in a relationship, it must be mutual and not one sided, or otherwise, it won’t really be a relationship at all. There are plenty of other guys out there who are good looking that would love to be with you. You may not find “the one” one time, you might get a few guys who aren’t worth it, but there are guys out there, who will love you, and you will feel the same about. Sometimes the wait may seem never ending, but patience is a virtue. Forget about this guy; honestly he’s not worth it and obviously doesn’t care. Yes it will hurt, but it’s for your own good. If you get to be in a relationship with this guy, you will be ecstatic, but in the end you will get more heartache. You deserve so much more than this guy and remember you should be with someone who’s willing to catch you when you fall.

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