November 19th 2011

Dear Helpline,

I am seriously in need of help. It’s like this. Every time I start dating a guy I end up making out with another guy at least twice. I just started dating this guy recently, and already did the same thing. Pleaseeee I need some advice.

Charmzz

Dear Charmzz,

It is evident that you are not ready to make a commitment. What if the guys you were dating were doing you the very same thing? Would you like it? Of course not. No one would. Why do something that you wouldn’t want someone else to do to you? You need to ask yourself what it is that you want. Just because you like someone doesn’t mean you have to make out with him. What if you liked 20 guys at the same time? Would you make out with them all? Also remember that you don’t want men branding you with a specific label. We all know what that label is. No girl wants to be classed as shallow. It is possible to like different guys at the same time. It happens to so many of us! However, you can’t always have it your way. You need to put aside physical appearances and look at character. Sometimes, they all have great character but you also need to look at which one that a relationship would look promising with, the one that you can have a future with.

Discuss Story