October 08th 2011

Dear Helpline,

I have a boyfriend who I think is really into me but sometimes I feel like he lies to me. Sometimes I think he’s all I need, and other times I feel like I want to leave him. What do you think I should do?

Confused

Dear Confused,

You need to first of all ask yourself why do you think that you feel this way. Why do you think he would lie to you? Is he giving you reasons to be suspicious? Sometimes he could be distracted by work or other issues in his life that he may not discuss with you. You also need to think of what it is that you really want. You stated that sometimes you feel like he’s all you need and in other instances you feel in more or less words the exact opposite. You can’t run away from every relationship just because you get the feeling that your partner is lying to you. We’re all human and it is natural for people to lie. If you really like this guy, you need to sit down and discuss the situation with him calmly. Don’t start acting up and make all kinds of accusations but just let him know how you feel. You also need to be aware of the mood that he is in before you make your move; always use your discretion. We’re all human and it is normal for you to feel this way. If this guy loves you, and you love him just the same you will be okay once you sit down and talk about the situation.

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