October 15th 2011

Dear Helpline,

There’s this guy I like a lot. He says he likes me too but friends keep saying that he’s not the one for me that he has other girls and he’s just not the boyfriend type. Should I listen to my friends and let him go? But some of my other friends say he likes me a lot so I really don’t know if he’s pretending to like me or if he likes me a lot.

Anonymous

Dear Anonymous,

First of all you keep saying “your friends.” You need to have a mind of your own and decide what you want, because at the end of the day, only you can make you happy. However, you also need to take into consideration what your friends say as it sometimes helps you make a better decision, but don’t let them make your decision for you, make your own decisions. You also need to look past the fact that you like this guy, and start doing some serious questioning. Observe this guy very closely. Is what your friends are saying true? Have you seen for yourself and ignored it? You also need to do what’s best for you; which of your friends are the ones saying that he has other girls? Are those the friends your parents would call the good friends? Are those the friends who are always giving you positive advice? Are those the friends who are honest with you no matter what? Which of your friends are saying that he likes you a lot? Are those the ones always encouraging you to get involved in negativity? You need to remember that even if you like this guy, sometimes it’s best that you stay away. However, some of your friends may be wrong and he may very well be a good guy. So that you could try making a good decision, look into this guy’s history. Ask questions around and you could also date him, to see the kind of individual that he is. Remember dating is about getting to know each other. As much as he may be good with his game, there are times people let certain information out which allows you to see who they are. Good luck!

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