September 10th 2011

Dear Helpline,

Please help me. I have very small breasts and all my friends have big breasts. They laugh at me and sometimes I don't want to go to school because of this. Please help me and tell me some things I can do which will cause my breasts to get bigger. PLEASE HELP.

Thomika

Dear Thomika

This is a common issue with many teenagers but you should not let such a small thing bring you down. We understand how you feel, but you should not have to change your body, just for people to accept you; people should accept and love you just the way you are, because we all are different in our own ways. People who say that they are your friends should not ridicule you because of your body but teenagers sometimes, can be a bit difficult. Remember that you are going to school to learn and not because of the size of your breasts, however when people ridicule you, you feel depressed and that is expected. You should build the courage to tell your friends you do not appreciate how they treat you, don’t be rude but be firm. You must also be prepared for the possibility that they might over-react and make smart remarks saying that you are “too sensitive” “touchy” or “too emotional.” Remember teenagers can be a bit naïve at times and are not as mature as most adults. One of the things you can do to lift your spirits is to use a change of environment. You can join the choir, drama club, start a study group or any other thing you might have interest in just to keep yourself busy, and most likely you will enjoy it. You can try doing that after you’ve told your friends that, because you will be busy and have less time for them; they will see just how serious you are. Real friends will put pride aside and apologize when they notice they have offended you. If they stop talking to you, don’t worry about that, you will make new friends in any clubs or study groups you join.

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