September 17th 2011

Dear Helpline,

I have this boyfriend who I like but I’m not in love with him. He keeps saying he loves me and I say it back even when I don't mean it. I want to break up with him but I don't know what 2 do. Should I leave him?

L.J.A

Dear L.J.A

If you don’t love someone, you need to let them know the truth, but you can’t continue lying to him. How would you feel if the situation was reversed? What if you find a guy you actually love, and he keeps telling you that he loves you when you say that you love him but what if, it’s all lies? If you don’t love your partner, it’s okay to feel so, it’s not a crime. However, you can’t keep on telling those lies because if you continue to be in a relationship like this, it usually leads to cheating and even if it doesn’t, when he finds out that everything was a lie, you will end up hurting him a great deal. You stated that you like him, but not love him, if you like him; you need to build up some courage and let him know the truth. He will appreciate the fact that you told him, instead of lying. Yes it will be hurtful, but after a while, he will get over it and so will you. When you are telling him that, be gentle about it; just let him know how you feel. Don’t tell him that you’re in love with another guy, that’s one of the things, you want to avoid, just be honest yet gentle. If you continue to stay in this eventually you will end up cheating, and hurting your partner. Remember nobody likes a taste of their own medicine.

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