September 24th 2011

Dear Helpline,

There is this girl that I really like. I think I am in love with her, but the problem is she is not a one-man girl. She has numerous flings with other guys and this deeply hurts me. Everyday at school, I hear some other guy talking about her and this saddens me even more. What should I do?

Desperate for her love

Dear Desperate for her love

It is true that you have feelings for this girl but why choose to be with someone who will hurt you even more? It is obvious what she’s doing and you stated it yourself, she’s quite promiscuous. There are times that you will like people, but you just have to stay away for your own good. This girl will break your heart whether you want to hear it or not, and this girl can also be a disease carrier. Ask yourself, do you love her? Or is it just infatuation? How does she treat you? Does she even care about how you feel? If she did then she would be way more considerate about your feelings. It is clear that this girl is not ready to settle down yet. You need to be very aware of the fact that she could be a disease carrier. Why be with someone who doesn’t feel the same about you? There are many other girls who will come your way. Focus on your academics as this should be your chief priority. A good girl will come your way when it’s time. Don’t bum yourself about the situation. Enjoy your youth, go out with your friends, join school clubs. It really does not make any sense to focus on a girl who does not care about the way you feel.

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